Knock Knock! Is it you? Or is it your mental health issues talking?

Knock, Knock!

Is it you or is it your mental instability?

It is you talking or is it your mental health issues?

Is it you thinking or it is your mental traumas?

It's difficult to think straight during mental instability.

And it's hard to make right decisions when you are going through mental instabilities which is why the knowledge of whether you are mentally healthy or not is very important.

You might make some wrong decisions when your mental health is compromised.

Like letting good people go, because you are scared of the commitment.

Or you are just not ready to make any effort.

Blaming others for your issues because you could not think straight.

Making bad decisions at work.

You often lie to yourself to make you feel better instantly but this is just fatal for long term. Your issues keep piling up.

You fears and insecurities are also passed on to people around you.

You keep thinking everyone is using you and no body can help you.

You tend to care less about the people around you, you don't feel like caring too much, or understanding other's issues. The reason that you are feeling this way is not because you don't want to care about others, or because you are this kind of person, it's because your mind and emotions are exhausted. That will only come back when you start feeling small things small good emotions.

In order to save yourself from the pain & problems that MIGHT come with the people, you tend to deprive yourself of the good relationships, lot of happiness, and fun with other people.

But, remember, pleasure and pain both are part of life!

You think caring for others means, solving their problems, but sometimes it just means listening to their problems, acknowledge them and spending time with them.

Living for others is one of the best pleasures in life. That's why people have kids, pets, partners, and other things that gives them a purpose.

You overthink a lot, and most of the time you end up thinking the worst possible outcome, you focus less on best possible outcome.

No matter how much others will do for you, you will still think it's not enough.

Constant thought of you are not getting what you want, deprives you from appreciating small things that others do for you.

The big losses that we face because of your small wrong decisions will come as a regret tomorrow.

Even though, regrets go away, it still doesn't get you the best things that you could get if you were not going through mental instability or thinking straight.

It's not advisable to make important decisions when you are going through traumas.

Which is why it is said give time to yourself, get your s**t together and then make a decision.

It is important to give time to yourself.

If you cannot figure out things in your 'me time', it is important that you take external help such as therapist and psychologist.

A lot of people think going to psychologist will make you dependent on them, that's not true. They are just guiding light.

Do you ever think if you will visit the doctor for cold and cough, you will be dependent on them?

No, mental disease are as common as cold and cough and are as easily curable as cold and cough, if you are given the right treatment.

Yes, spending time with friends and people and right people will ultimately heal you.

But remember, it might take a lot of time, and that time you can use for better things than healing. Because friends and loved ones aren't expert either.

And also, when you are not mentally stable, you are likely to pass on your fears and insecurities to the people around you, unknowingly, and you don't want to do that.

You are also likely to hurt your people unknowingly, and wonder you didn't do anything wrong but they are still hurt.

This feeling is painful too.

So make sure you understand yourself, make sure you know the real you and there is no harm in talking about your fears and insecurities even though how stupid they may sound to you.

They are still real.

Your thoughts are real, they are really affecting you, and first step to take is to accept to yourself is that you are having all these stupid thoughts. but let me assure you, that's not crazy, that's just real!

If you constantly get such thoughts, it surely means your past traumas are still affecting your current life. If you don't want to work on it, you are only depriving yourself from the best that you can get in your life. And don't we all want best in our lives?

Asking the big question, Are you the real you?

Or most of what you are right now, is because of your traumas?