How emotional quotient plays a significant role in the understanding of self and everything in general.
Emotional quotient or Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in understanding and handling relationships.
When it comes to managing relationships, women are considered to be of high emotional quotient for sustaining relationships, especially personal ones.
But, emotional intelligence doesn't only advantages women but men also, where women are considered to have extremely sensitive sensors to understand and express their emotions, men on the other hand are considered to have relatively better stress management capabilities. However all of these characteristics and abilities are quite far away from gender bias, anyone can be anything in their lives and can possess different abilities constituting emotional intelligence.
DOMINANT GENDER BIASES
But wait, what made us create a divide between men and women even in these significant cognitive abilities about emotional intelligence?
We as a social system have deep-rooted orthodoxical values pertaining to almost every aspect of the relationship men and women share with each other or everything in general, which when imbibed into the cores of being often gradually are shaped to become men and women. It's no wonder to see men suppressing their emotions and society calling it emotional stability. The cerebral functioning of men and women are somewhat different but we should keep in mind the conditioning people are subjected to, which equips them to possess a certain set of abilities including empathy, stress management, emotional stability, leadership qualities etc. The kind of upbringing given to females and males has differences utmost that they develop to form the positions they hold firm enough and makes it easy to predict the actions based on gender, not only actions but roles to be played in personal and professional lives too. For instance - females are believed to be best suited for becoming housewives and nurturers of the unit and are put in the places of subjugation to serve " males " who are believed to be best suited for handling the stress of daily earning and managing the finances for running household, as basic as it sounds. Though every nature of being has a power of choice, a choice to choose what to become, how to behave and what to express , even though the independent choice of being , the ideas opted for functioning are deeply influenced by the ambience we are in and the connections shared with those around us.
SOCIETY AND ITS INFLUENCE
For instance, if there's high pressure of feeling guilty for crying or expressing distressing emotions, one may not only feel guilty for feeling bad but also experience a fear of feeling bad. To fit in any ambience consisting of those who directly or indirectly have profound influences on us , we tend to behave according to the parameters provided by the environment.
If there's enough emphasis on constructing care or values of sharing and nurturing , and the idea of being thoughtful for those around , it can take the form of good cognitive empathic abilities vital for maintaining and improving social , professional and personal relationships.
When there's attention devoted towards building the budding minds to be able to understand different or similar emotions or thoughts and where they are coming from, the relationships they share with themselves or others have quality in stability and security. No matter where we go , what we do and who we meet , a certain level of warmth is necessary to function in a healthy way which advantages the sense of self and others in general.
DIFFERENT HUMANS HAVE DIFFERENT COPING MECHANISMS
When we talk about men and women, we are not only including the differences in their respective brain functioning but also the differences in upbringing, ambience , environment and the choice they made for themselves pertaining to survive or function in the place they are in. The smallest of core values which have the largest degree of impact brought through them is what we see in the case of how emotions are perceived through different eyes in a world where everyone struggles to find a place to hold. Not necessarily everyone has a solution oriented mindset , some cope with stress through releasing them out or expressing them out in the healthiest way possible. Finding solutions and expressing distress or releasing the emotional turbulence caused in specific situations , all of them are equally essential towards cutting through the dilemmas of problems arising in our lives. It depends whether they occur together or one before the other or nothing in general. Coping through various stressful situations is a part of life everyone walks through, but the weight lies in how effectively theories were learned about the past and how often they are applied which has a lot to do with the emotional quotient of being.
THE LEARNING PROCESS OF ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES
Though it (emotional intelligence), plays an indispensable role in everyone's life, it is not a concept to be taught and learned quickly through long advising workshops telling you how to cope with stress, or how to manage your life , it's in nobody's hold to tell you the right thing for yourself, for emotional strength comes from experiencing the current and not switching up on this or that.
It's a process , merely a concept to be learned through workshops or self help books , sure they can help , but the amount of self work on personal emotions adds to your ability to perceive emotions outside and the amount of work on knowing of self adds to the ability of perceiving and understanding different or similar thoughts coming outside of your desired environment. It's a process of discovering what works for you and consequently getting to know how ideas different from yours have a legitimate ground of existence and that's how emotional quotient differs individually and has one ground of acceptance and functioning.
But when it comes to male and females, this concept in itself gets limited to understanding different ways of functioning in humans. It's mostly the outer and inner stimulus which shapes nature and the level of how emotions are perceived. They impact how connections are built and take the place of sustenance which is too in its purest form as a result of cognitive abilities gifted through nature and so it comes in different forms with different beings where one has to discover and rejoice the difference in particular and in general too.
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